Micah and Love

Sometimes, I think, we don’t tell the people we love that we love them enough. Perhaps we do tell them, but also, perhaps, we don’t make it clear.

And sometimes the love we feel overwhelms us- out of nowhere – it hits us like a bolt of lightning – and we are slain – stopped – our world is frozen for a moment in wonder.

When these moments happen – we should say it. We should note them, I think, and share them – we should let the people we love know that we are transformed by their love.

It is what, perhaps, love is meant to do – to transform us – place us in a new place – a new relationship – not only to the other whom we love, but to ourselves as well.

It is that way with me about Micah. And today – as if I were lifted by an unseen hand and raised to the heavens for a different view – my world is transformed by the realization that –

I love this man.

I am so grateful that I have Micah in my life – and I thank him every moment of every day – with each breath that I take – for being a part of me. I say it often – that I love him – but it doesn’t begin to express what I feel. I love many things – I love a beautiful sunset, I love a good meal, I love a successful day of work.

But what I feel for Micah is not like anything else I can feel – because – when I see Micah – my breath stops – my heart freezes in my chest – and for a moment – I am outside the world. And then – in a rush of cool wind – my heart begins to beat – my breath returns, and I am reborn.

I love this man.

Each time I see my beloved – I am slain. And each time, his touch, his voice, his embrace – gives me new life. Each time I see my Micah – I am renewed. Each time he touches me, I am transformed. Each time he kisses me, I am awakened. Each time we make love – I am renewed and revitalized.

I love this man.

Micah – my darling and my beloved – thank you for being in my life.

Micah – my darling and my beloved – I am grateful every day and every moment that I am with you.

Micah – my darling and my beloved – I love you with all my heart, with all my soul, with all of my might and with all my being.

Micah – I love you.

My God – I love this man.

Micah and me

Here are some pictures of Micah and Me -

Just thought you might like to see them. I love him so much.
He is my wonderful sweetpea - there is no feeling in the world like being kissed by Micah.

Some snaps and stuff about Mak and Simon

I found these pics that I took of Mak and Simon- they are so cute together and they love each other so much. So I wanted to share them. Here they are. They love each other and care about each other so much. They take such good care of each other. They are great.

Micah and My Day - Monday May 21 2007

A very nice day. We sat and talked about all kinds of things - friends, work, life. I had to leave and work and so did Micah but we met again later that afternoon and sat and talked more.


I love you my sweetpea - you are always the best thing in my life and I love you so much.

Here is a picture of me and Micah - it isn't from today but I wanted to post it anyway - I like it alot.

For those of you who dont' know - I LOVE HIM.

That is the begining and the end. From all time to no time - from all things to no things - from the start of the universe to the end of time - I love him.

Jamie and Tran - Kissing - episode two

OK - no news - so another completely fabricated story about Jamie and Tran - and they are going to be getting more and more explicit until we have NEWS.

So Jamie and Tran decided to come to come to the City for a weekend getaway. So, with parents' permissions of course, they boarded a bus and off they went to go to the big City.

When here the weather changed and got rainy - and they decided to take in a movie - and went to an old movie palace with a big balcony. Ah - movie balconies- - and necking - they go hand in hand.

They were sitting in the next to the last row and having a nice kiss - mouths pressed together and tongues dancing - when the two lesbians from my study group at school leaned over them and said - hey - Jamie and Tran - we are friends of Micah's and Gabe's and - we are supposed to be watching you.

Oh my, how embarassing - their passionate kiss interrupted by the two lesbians.

But it all worked out well, they all went to dinner together and became great friends.

NEWS GUYS - WE NEED NEWS.

Tape at 11.

Friday May 18 2007 on Safe Harbor

A lovely day.

Here is a picture of Micah and me sitting in our chair wearing oversized Santa Hats - just because.

Hehe - they are so funny.

We also looked at the progress on the new house and visited China.

Altogether a lovely afternoon.

Just in case any of you want to know - I LOVE HIM SO MUCH - he makes me so so very happy.

Hi sweetpea - I love you.

Micah and I go dancing

As I told everyone earlier - the top post always has to be about Micah. It's just the way it is folks. He is my beloved sweetpea and he gets top billing - and he gets to be on top (hehe).

So - Micah and I had a lovely day. We sat and chatted in our chair this afternoon - then we went to visit the Underground Railroad Museum in SL. It is a replica of one that is on the campus of Kent State University in Ohio. It is very well done and very educational - we would recommend it to anyone who wants to see just how brave people can be in the face of horror.

After that we took Micah's friend Yang Boyd around Safe Harbor - he had never been to visit before. Yang is a very talented designer from Indonesia - he lives in Jakarta. He seemed to have a very nice time.

Then Micah and I sat a little more and talked and then we both went off to work for a while.

About 8pm EDT (5pm Linden SL) we met again and went off to AE to dance. We were early though - the dancing really wasn't going to start until 7 SL time. But we danced a slow dance and held each other for more than an hour and it was lovely.

Altogether a very relaxing and wonderful day.

By the way- in case any of you haven't figured it out yet-

I love my sweetpea - my Micah is my beloved.

Just so you know.

More pictures tomorrow - right now it is very late (1:07 am MY time - yoikes) - and I am off to bed.

Nite all - and goodnight sweetpea - I love you.

Jamie and Tran - Kissing - episode one

This episode is completely invented - that's what happens when we don't get any news - SEND NEWS GUYS otherwise i have to keep making it up.

Well, it seems that Jamie and Tran rode their bikes over to Cobbs Hill Park and took a picnic blanket along, as well as a couple of other blankets and some dinner and snacks. it was a beautiful night- bright starlight filled the sky. the wind was soft with a summer-like breeze, and the air was rich with flowers' perfume.

it was very romantic.

Jamie unfolded the blanket and set it down on the grass and Tran unpacked the picnic basket and took out the sandwiches and the cold soda they had brought with them.

Jamie and Tran sat together side by side on the blanket and ate a light dinner, mostly focused on staring into each other's eyes which glinted with the moonlight which had appeared as they sat there.

Then Tran took the other blankets and unfolded them and they lay down together to watch the moon travel across the sky and to take in the starlit night.

Jamie put his arm around Tran's shoulders and drew him in closer to himself and propped himself up on one elbow and put his lips onto Tran's and tasted the last of the soda he had had. Tran's lips parted and Jamie and Tran began to kiss in the moonlight. Jamie pulled the blankets up over them and they lay there in the dark, drinking in the light of the moon and each other's warmth.

It was a lovely evening - ...

Ok Guys - deliver NEWS!!!!!

Jamie and Tran - Kissing

Well - Jamie read the blog and said - gee - the description of Micah's kisses - that's the way he feels about Tran. So I am going to post about Jamie and Tran's kissing. Let me say right at the outset though, I will have to make up the stories about their kisses. I have no news - NO NEWS!!!

So - i am going to start to post all kinds of stories about Jamie and Tran kissing - in the parking lot -in the diner -in the car - riding bikes - I am going to MAKE THEM ALL UP!!

Jamie and Tran - write to me. I need NEWS guys - then I don't have to make it up. ROTFL.

First totally fabricated story will be posted tonight unless I get a true one!!!

Don't worry though, it will be nice. I love you Jamie and Tran - you rule - you Rock!!!

Why I Married Micah - 2

The top post of my Blog (it is my blog after all) has to be about Micah - sorry - that's just the way it is - he is my sweetpea and I love him and I want him to be on the top (hehe) of the blog all the time.

There is no one on earth like Micah - he takes my breath away,
Well - here is a picture of my sweetpea - I love you sweetpea.

Did any of you see "Memoirs of a Geisha"? Well - Micah can stop me with a look- my breath leaves me and I am stunned. It is amazing.

Gay and Post Gay Continued - The Conversation with Mak

Now, of course, we have to take into account - you can't have a Post Gay ethos without first dealing with the isolation that homosexual people have felt from "straight society" for thousands of years. If a group is referred to as "those poeple", the "love that dares not say its name", "sickos", "sinners who will burn in hell" - you can't very well expect everyone to have a happy time chatting together.

To move towards a Post Gay world, there has to be a fundamental shift in the "non-gay" world - so here is a conversation that I had with Mak this morning about whether or not to keep this thread going on the Blog. I am worried that people will think it is too restricting - that only gay people would be interested in this. But that is wrong - everyone should be interested in how we all learn to live as one group of people - one community.

So here is the conversation with Mak - post comments if you are of a mind to do so. Let me know if this conversation is interesting to you.

Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:45:22 AM): i was just trying to comment on your homosexual post
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:45:42 AM): did you like my post?
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:45:56 AM): well, it's interesting Is this a current hot topic in the gay world then?
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:46:18 AM): sorry, i am going to use gay ‘cause its quicker
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:46:18 AM): in parts of it yes
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:46:59 AM): but maybe it is too restricting for the blog
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:47:21 AM): looking at it from a SL perspective, it will be interesting to see if SL cross-gender activity has any impact on this debate
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:47:26 AM): too restricting?
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:47:32 AM): limiting
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:47:37 AM): like - everyone can't comment i don't want straight people to think they can't participate
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:48:57 AM): I was right in the middle of typing a comment!
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:49:01 AM): so long as everyone feels equally welcome
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:49:08 AM): i think i should put a post about that
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:49:17 AM): that the conversation is for everyone
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:49:29 AM): i'm sure people feel equally welcome. whether they are equally interested is another matter
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:49:42 AM): we’ll see that is part of the debate
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:49:44 AM): but it's your blog, it's there for you to express your opinions!
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:49:46 AM): i can write about that if you say that
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:50:08 AM): part of gay identity crisis stuff is that the world assumes everyone is interested in straight sex issues
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:50:22 AM): yes, I have heard that...
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:50:24 AM): and so gay people decided to have a sexuality that only they could relate to
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:50:34 AM): but is that healthy? for us a s a culture
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:50:45 AM): no, i think it's a terrible way to carry on
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:50:45 AM): or should we all just be talking about love and sexuality together?
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:51:04 AM): i can understand why it might be necessary from a protective POV
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:51:14 AM): or creating a cultural identity but are we now beyond that - that's the fundamental question? Whynot just pan-sexuality? See - that is the debate - why isolate any person or group?
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:51:22 AM): but I would prefer if sexual identity matched sexual proclivity
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:52:16 AM): what I mean is, if sexuality covers a spectrum from 100% gay to 100% straight
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:52:23 AM): then why make people sit in one camp?
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:52:27 AM): We should be saying:
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:52:44 AM): exactly = that is what people are writing about
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:52:44 AM): "Everyone has the right to fall in love with or lust after anyone they want" HOWEVER You have to be prepared for the fact that the people you fancy might not be interested in you which isn't new for gay men, I guess
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:53:17 AM): well that's true regardless – you can’t be sure of that for straight people either
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:53:24 AM): but to be honest, everyone gets that
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:53:26 AM): YES!
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:53:29 AM): ok
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:53:38 AM): i am going to post this conversation in its entirety on the blog
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:53:39 AM): ok?
Makara Yorimasa (5/17/2007 5:54:01 AM): anything else you want to say before posting?
gabe semyorka (5/17/2007 5:54:09 AM): no this is really good

Why I Married Micah

Because I love him. And because I would not want to live my life without him.

That's the reason.

Just thought I would pop it in there. Here is a picture of our marriage. (we were the only ones there). we exchanged our vows just to each other - we liked it that way. Very quiet - very private - just us.

And I would marry Micah again in a heartbeat - actually I do - every time my heart beats - I marry Micah again. Want to know a secret - He Takes My Breath Away - every day - He Takes My Breath Away.

I love you Sweetpea - I love you .

And this is a specail message for Jamie and Tran - and any other young lovers out there (or old ones for that matter) - I hope you find someone who makes you feel the way Micah makes me feel. I couldn't wish for anything more wonderful for you in your life.

Being Gay in the 21st Century

There is a whole new movement afoot - sometimes it is referred to as "post gay" - sometimes as "beyond gay" - but what it is about is moving homosexuality out of the "Gay" environment and asking just what is so different about what homosexual men want and what everyone else wants. It means i guess not being defined by sexual orientation and preference but by a complexity of who we are - and allowing that sexual orientation and preferences are only on aspect of that complexity. They don't define WHO I am - but they define a lot about HOW I want to live.

Good questions. And there - we have used the word - homosexual. the bad word - the word we don't use anymore.

Hmmm - you don't hear that word much. Gay has replaced it - but afterall - we are homosexuals - we arent' always gay.

We need to talk about this. We need to talk about what it means to be a homosexual - what makes us what we are?

Even more - we need to talk about why we don't talk about it.

How many people know that Native Americans saw their "gay" tribesmen as shamans - as messengers from the Great Spirit? They were referred to as "Two Spirt Persons".

Did you know that? They weren't, as the movies show it, "squaw men" - they were a different sex. And often considered to have magical powers.

Well, that's what we are. We aren't "effeminate men". We are Homosexual Men.

Here are some links to the new stuff being printed about "post gay". Read some if you have a mind to and then let's start talking. SL is about new worlds and new visions - let's be new world makers, not refugees from the old world.

Here are the links and some quotations and citations:

"In the generation before (gay liberation), there were a lot of gay men, like Truman Capote, Tennessee Williams and Gore Vidal, who would not write about gay subject matter at all. ... They were frank about admitting they themselves were gay, but they never wrote about that because they wanted the big public.

"Then there was my generation, and many of us wrote almost exclusively about being gay, although in my own case I've written two novels in which there were no gay characters. But they were my least successful novels with the public.

"Now you have writers like Alan Gurganus, who published the first gay story in the New Yorker in 1974 and was always very clear about being gay. But (his novel) ''The Oldest Living Confederate Widow'' has virtually no gay theme in it.

"I call it sort of post-gay. People aren't in the closet, they're frank about their sexuality, but they don't feel limited to gay subject matter. They feel they can write about anything."
—Edmund White, quoted in Fritz Lanham, "Beginnings of liberation," The Houston Chronicle, November 27, 1994

http://www.newsreview.com/sacramento/Content?oid=oid%3A10951

The End of Gay: And the Death of Heterosexuality (Paperback)
by Bert Archer (Author)

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Two_spirit

So - let's start a conversation - read especially about the two spirit tradition in Native American tribes. then post some comments.

general thoughts on kisses -

Well – StarlessII suggested mistletoe as a way for promoting kissing.

Hmmmm- let me tell you about Micah’s kisses. (Sorry if this embarrasses you Sweetpea).

Micah and kisses – well – usually we don’t need mistletoe – when I see Micah I become a total kissing fanatic. Did you ever have the most wonderful food and drink in the world after not having eaten for a while – and you are hot and parched and all you can think of is how good the food and drink are – how they should go on forever –

Maybe you feel that way about chocolate – or about some special wine – or some special juice?

Well – let me tell you – you have only just touched the surface of what it is like to be kissed by Micah.

If you are parched, walking in the hot sun on a mountain trail – your throat is dry and your eyes are gritty – it is just rocks and scrub and heat from the ground and

Suddenly

There is a beautiful mountain stream – the water gently tumbling over rocks and rushing down towards you. It is lush and lovely – and the breeze grows cool from the mist of the splashing water.

And if you kneel down by the side of the flowing water, and if you dip your hands into it and cup them and bring water to your face and bathe your eyes, and then put your parched lips into the cool water and draw in that first sweet sip of the cool liquid which you long for –

Well – that’s about 1% of a Micah kiss.

Just like in this picture of us kissing. Kissing Micah is the most wonderful thing in the world – to be kissed by Micah is paradise-

I hope everyone gets a kiss like this in their lives –

I love you sweetpea – I love you Micah with all of me.

What a Wonderful Day on Safe Harbor

It was just the most relaxing day on Safe Harbor. The whole day was a joy.

Micah and I had a wonderful talk in our chair, and then took a bath and shower in our new house. We had a grand time - I won't go into too many details - but it was wonderful and relaxing. And filled with love.

Here we are in the bath - we decided to wear our Santa Hats - we haven't worn them in months.

I hope you like the pic.

Jeremy and Tran

I wrote to Jeremy and told him we need news of his doings and of his wonderful relationship with Tran.

We do. They are studying for exams together - but - Guys - what else is happening?

Send me news so we can post it.

We love you Jamie and Tran - we need NEWS!!!

Life in Safe Harbor

Life in Safe Harbor goes on. Simon and Mak spent a weekend hanging out and talking - Mak had a headache and Simon a stomach ache so they didn't go anywhere - just relaxed. Here they are - just relaxing - in Simon's rose garden. You have to admit they are certainly lovely together.
Here is another of the three of us. That's me on the cushion and Simon in Mak's lap.

Micah came back in world on Monday and we spent a lovely afternoon together in our chair. We got all caught up and things and made plans for the week.

I love him so much - he is my sweetpea - so here is a picture of my Micah for everyone to enjoy. Is it any wonder that I love him to bits? He is so wonderful. I love you sweetpea.

The Blog Goes On

Well - I am getting responses that people do like the Blog - so I shall continue.

Yay

More to come....

YouTube Video

In the interests of making people smile, I have started a YouTube account where I will post things I think interesting or funny. Here is a link to my first YouTube posting.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pedTxrW4sY0

I hope you like it.

Well, not wanting wanting to sound pissy or anything

It doesn't seem that very many people are reading the Blog - which of course makes me wonder whether or not it is worth a lot of time and effort to keep it up to date. I can't only judge readership by comments posted - and there are very few.

So.... If people are reading the blog and want to have it continue to be the interesting, informative and earthshatteringly exciting literature that it is - you have to let me know.

Post a comment already why don't you. then I will know you want to hear more.

Hehe.

More on Jamie and Tran

So - I want to make sure that Jamie and Tran get top billing at least for a while - so even though I posted about the new house after I posted about them I want you to jump to their post. It is right under the new house one - two down from here.

It is so wonderful what they have done - coming out in High School and finding that they love each other after being best friends almost all their lives. How great is that? It is terrific and it is wonderful.

It is hard for gay people to go to high school - everything - every movie, every concert, every dance - is all about straight people. Gay people get very depressed in high school - it is a major problem - so big that New York City has a high school just for gay people who were discriminated against in high school. Here is the website for the Harvy Milk School - if you don't know about it you should - and you should be working like crazy to make sure that all gay teens in your community are safe in school.

http://www.hmi.org/


I can't tell you enough about what it is like - just think about it - nothing we see in high school, nothing we hear about in class or in the lunchroom or in the locker room or in the hallways - nothing makes us feel welcome or at home. None of it is about us unless it is nasty jokes or put downs or insults - "oh, that is so gay!!" is the most common insult and derrogatory comment in high schools today.

Boys in the locker room talk about the girls they either slept with or lie about the girls they slept with - but can you imagine me or any boy in the locker room talking about the cute boy they are dating. Come on - give me a break.

So Jamie and Tran are heros - they are heros for all of us. They love each other and are happy to say it out loud. They are our future - all of us.

SL is international and my EU friends tell me that in the EU (lots of it anyway) things are different - but I can tell you from my own experience that being gay in high school in the US - no matter where - even in NYC or San Francisco - bites.

Yay for Jamie and Tran - we love you guys to bits. You Rock bigtime. You are the best. You are our future. Go go go Jamie and Tran - you rule.

Progress on the New House

So - this is what is going on with the new house construction - see - I told you Mak was great at this. He is building a larger better version of our house right in the air over us.

The problem is that when we move the new house the furnishings won't move with it - they aren't linked. so we will have to take everything moveable out and then put it back in. It is a big job.

But Mak is doing the heavy lifting on this - he has been working on the house for a few weeks now and it is grand. It has a big livingroom with a lovely working fireplace - you can see the smoke in the chimney - and it has a dining room and lovely country kitchen with a center island. There is a wonderful den where Micah can do his writing without being disturbed, and a big bedroom with a beautiful bath with a tub and shower. We will have a few big porches and a lovely flagstone patio to sit on - altogether a great house.

Thanks Mak - you are the best.

Jamie and Tran

Micah's brother Jamie has come out to the world. He and his best friend, Tran, have come out to each other and are having a wonderful time as a couple. They are very much in love.

Young love - there isn't anything like it in the world - it is awesome and wonderful and full of tenderness and new explorations. Who doesn't remember it and have a special feeling about it.

Jamie and Tran are studying for their finals together, going to dinner together, and just enjoying being together. What more could anyone want.

Way to go guys. Be yourselves and love each other. That's the key.

We love you Jamie and Tran. You rock.

more about the original santa hat

In case you are interested, by the way - this is the original Santa Hat that started us off.

a lovely and relaxing day

Micah and I had a lovely and relaxing day yesterday. We started out by chatting in our chair - I have spoken about our chair before - and getting caught up and putting all our news in perspective for one another.


Then we went over to the Spa Isand and took a shower and made love in the massage hut - we actually never got to the massage part (hehe). Micah is the most amazing lover - he knows me like he knows the back of his hand and he makes me feel so special and wonderful.
When we had relaxed and talked a bit more - we went off dancing. We went to the Peacock Rooom of Radio City/NBC and danced until he had to leave.

Altogether - a wonderful afternoon. I hope you like the pictures.

Thanks Micah - it was grand. I love you my sweetpea.

How Micah and I met

I met Micah on Boots' Beach - the old beach - just around Christmas time. I was wearing a santa hat that Boots and Shawn had given me and he liked it. I gave him one to wear and we started talking and --- well --- it was like lightning hit - I knew that I could never let this boy out of my sight.

We started becoming friends and it was a terrible winter in Seattle where Micah lives - he had ice storms and snow storms and his power kept going out. He would disappear for long times because he had no internet - no electricity - or couldn't get home from work the roads were so bad.

We started to date a little while later and then - well - nature took its course - and now we are married. Yes, of course, there was stuff in between. We made love for real the first time in our old house in Land's End - a house that I destroyed three times before our date by accident. I kept trying to rez it and move it and it flew apart. I was in a total panic.

Our friend and wonderful support - Aprikat - came and chased me off the land and rebuilt my house in time for Micah to arrive. My palms were sweating.

I still have the pieces of three destroyed houses in my inventory.

The day I met Micah was magic - the day we made love the first time was magic - the day we partnered was magic - the day we married was magic - every day with Micah is magic.

He is my world - He is the magic in my life.

Sweetpea - I love you - with all of me.

Thanks for accepting my Santa Hat.

Micah and Simon - and - The Avengers

Micah and Simon are Avengers fanatics. I know that there was a show and that there was a guy named Steed and a woman named Emma Peel - I know she wore black leather tight pants and he wore a bowler hat and carried an umbrella - and they got in and out of jams - that's about it.

Micah and Simon can go on forever - they know every episode and every detail and can compare the Avengers with the New Avengers. I didn't even know there was a "New Avengers".

I stand there not having a clue. But I love it. Did you ever see someone you love having a great time doing something you don't share or do - but loving every moment because they are having such a good time. That's what its like. I could sit there for hours and watch - it is such a pleasure to see them enjoying themselves and my Micah having such a good time.

I am so happy they share this passion - I can't follw the conversation but I can see their pleaure and love it.

sometimes it is not pg

someimes Micah and I go places and don't act PG - more M rated. Here are a couple of pic's I thought you might like.


Micah makes me very very happy - I love him with all of my heart and all my being. We are for each other. If you are reading this Sweetpea - I love you so much - no words can say.

more about Micah

Micah has the nicest smile and the warmest hug in the world. When I am down he holds me. But it is mutual - when he is down i hold him. We have a chair in our yard which is our magic chair - when we sit in it the cares of the world fall away and we are just us. Here is a picture of our chair.

When we sit in the chair nothing can bother us and there is nothing we can't work out. It is magic.






Sometimes Micah and I go exploring - and then we dance everywhere we go if we can. It depends on whether or not we can place pose balls - we have dances we love. Here we are dancing in Quebec City - in the Hotel Frontenac.




But our chair is our favorite place. Nothing is so relaxing as sitting and cuddling in our chair.

A little more about my brother Mak and his partner Simon

Well - Mak is everything to me (outside of Micah of course - Micah is my husband and i love him with all my heart and being and have from the moment we met - but more about that in another post - this one is about my brother Mak) -

But my brother Mak -- he was one of the first people I ever met in SL and he is my rock and my shield and he is always there and always has been -from the first day. There is no one quite like him in the world.

Mak will never say no to someone in need - he has the biggest heart in the universe - and he is very talented and smart and warm and kind and cuddly. there is no one like him anywhere in any world.

Simon is Mak's partner and he is such a wonderful sweet and kind man. He is talented and smart - he can have conversations about most anything - and between them they have the most wonderful supportive relationship. They love each other and care for each other and look out for each other - it is what you would want your life to be like.

If you are hurting there is no better shoulder to cry on than mak's and simon's - and if you are in a lighthearted mood no one can make jokes as fast and cleverly as they.

It is a crime to not know them if you are in our neighborhood- it is like going to devonshire and not having a warm scone with clotted cream (well i made that up but it sounded good to me).

I throw food at them all the time when they are joking with me - but they are my muffins and my family and I love them to my toes.

With them in my life and with Micah as my partner and spouse - well - Safe Harbor is heaven. There is no doubt about it.

Pictures of my Beloved Micah

Here are some more pictures of Micah - after all - he is my beloved Sweetpea and I love him so much. If you knew him you would fall in love with him also. He is so amazingly cute and handsome and sexy - and smart and talented - and warm and wonderful - and he is my darling. So here are some pictures that i love. If you are reading this sweetpea - i love you - and i wouldn't marry any other man. You are my darling - i love every minute we have together.

What I First Looked Like

Well - I found this photo of my first days in SL - in my newbie skin. Here it is - I thought some of you might like to see it. Mak actually remembers me in this skin - he met me when I looked like this.

This is our house - mine and Micah's - called Micah's Paradise. But it is very small - that's hard to see from the photo but it is. We can't walk around without bumping into each other and the walls. Micah and I have had wonderful times in this house - from talking to friends to making love - we got partnered in this house - we married when in this house - we love our house - but it is so small that we spend most of our time sitting outside. So -----

Mak - my big brother - is the most wonderful builder and designer - and he is building us a new one - modeled after this one but bigger - which he is building in the air over our current house. When he is done he will remove the old house and lower the new one.

Mak is amazing - he can build anything. For esample - he build this entire Turkish style palace - where we can go to relax and dance.




Mak is amazing - and so is Simon - his parter who is my brother in law in SL. Simon is a very wonderful singer - a counter-tenor- in a major cathedral. He and Mak are two of the smartest, best educated and most fun people to be with in the world. Not ot mention that without them I would be toast - soggy toast at that.

Micah and My Day

Well Micah and I had a wonderful and emotional and relaxing day today. In addition to going to the memorial and sharing some of the wonderful things that people had given, we had a very relaxing afternoon sitting on our island and talking. I thought it might be nice for people to see what a warm and comfortable place Gay Second Life can be. Here are some pictures from today.

Sterling's Memorial Revisited

Micah and I went to Sterling's Memorial today. Many friends had come before - and Stervling's real life boyfriend also came inworld to join with Sterl's SL community to celebrate his life.

Micah and I were very moved by the experience. Jay Wigner and I talked about establishing a permanent memorial park on the new Beach Bum's island that Boots and Shawn are buying so that we can have a space to remember those of us who have passed. We need to start to collect the history of our people - the gay community of SL. In many ways the SL gay community is a development that is profound - here we belong and are the Normal People.

And unfortunatly - gay bashing has come to SL. To learn more about it i recommend you visit the blog of my brother - Makara Yorimasa -

http://makara-yorimasa.blogspot.com/

where he talks about some of the more reprehensible things that have started to happen.

I recommend that anyone with a SL who wants to see what SL can mean to people go to Sterling's memorial site. send me an email or request and I will send you the LM.

If anyone would like to help with the Memorial Park or the History let me know.

Many thanks.

Musings on Dej and Sterling and Sterling’s Memorial

Our friend Sterling died over the weekend. Sterling was Dej’s husband – and it was expected but none the less a loss to us all. Sterling had Muscular Dystrophy – and so he was severely incapacitated during the latter stages of his disease. SL and his marriage to Dej made all the difference in the world.

I think that people who aren’t part of the Second Life family don’t understand what love means to us in SL. It is hard to appreciate how real it can be.

Dej and Sterling were a part of the Beach Bums family – the group of gay men who gather round Boots’ Beach in Provincetown. More about Boots and Shawn in a later post – but for most of us – Boots’ Beach was the first home we had in SL – and perhaps the first home we ever had. Gay people don’t come from gay families – finding a real family and home means belonging – and that is what Boots’ Beach is about. The Bums are a family.

Many of us move away – get homes – get married – but the beach and the Bums are always a part of our hearts. Sterling and Dej were family – and so we all suffer the loss.

Many gay people find love in SL – for different reasons. Maybe someone is disabled – and SL is the only way he can express his love. Maybe someone is afraid – or exploring his sexuality for the first time.

Sometimes people find love without meaning to – they come for some other reason and find someone – and that becomes love.
Marriage in the gay community of SL is like that – and Dej and Sterling had a wonderful marriage.

Sterling will be missed –but he lives on in the memories of all his friends and all the Bums. When we experience a loss like this – all of us – it makes us stop and think about who we are and what we want from life. Sterling found Dej and Dej found Sterling and that makes SL worthwhile. It is a home.

Marriage – vows – they are real – whether in real life or second life. SL is about real feelings and real people. Sterling’s death makes me remember that.

my brother Mak and his partner Simon

Here is my brother Mak and his partner Simon. They are my family and I love them.

a picture of my husband - Micah Michinaga - and me

Here is a picture of me and my husband - Micah Michinaga - in our chair on our lawn in front of our house - Micah's Paradise - in Safe Harbor. I love him with all of me. He is my sweetpea. Without him my life would be so empty.